Britney Spears’ assistant, Brett Miller, got married over the weekend in Miami. And Brit-Brit was the maid of honor. TMZ got this photo from the ceremony. Britney’s not the first celebrity boss to stand up for their PA – Kate Bosworth served as a bridesmaid when her former assistant, Jacqui Louez, got hitched a few years ago.
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I’ve been a bridesmaid in two weddings. Both times it was a lot of fun, but there’s also a lot of work involved. When my best friend from college got married, she was determined not to be a Bridezilla, and step one was sending all the bridesmaids a selection of 50 possible dress cuts and letting us vote, “Survivor”-style, on which ones we would and wouldn’t wear. After two weeks or so, we had it down to two styles, one for the flat-chested girls and one for the curvy ones. I liked my dress so much that – believe it or not – I’ve actually worn it again. When it came time for the actual wedding, the bridesmaids pitched in a lot – running errands the day of the ceremony, making sure the rehearsal went well, and the like.
This article from The Canadian Press talks about wedding season and how being a bridesmaid is like being a better dressed personal assistant. I found this sentiment, while somewhat truthful, really chafing. I guess for me “assistant” equals “working,” and I don’t consider doing my part to make sure that my friend has a wonderful and memorable wedding day anything close to resembling work. I was an assistant because I needed to pay the bills, I was a bridesmaid because I love my friend and was honored to be included in her special day.
For those of you who have been bridesmaids (or groomsmen), would you consider that the same thing as being a temporary personal assistant?
Since it’s June, weddings are a pretty popular topic of conversation. Either you’re in one, going to one, or having to hear about one. But should weddings remain an off-limits topic at work, like your sex life? One office where I worked had a girl whose entire purpose in life was to get married, so when she got engaged we all had to hear about it constantly. I’d be like, “Hey, so and so, can you move that meeting to 3:00?” and she’d be like “3:00 is fine, because it’s the exact time my dad is going to start walking me down the aisle!” In case you were wondering, I hated her.
That said, it is possible to talk about what’s up in your life–your wedding, your kids, your trip to Las Vegas, whatever–as long as you do so with discretion. Maybe you want to limit your personal-life talk to the coworkers you actually hang out with in real life. Or, if you’re just so happy you could burst, try to keep it to no more than five minutes per coworker unless they ask followup questions. Regardless, other people will give you cues, and then you should follow them accordingly.
To weigh in on either side of the debate, you can go here.
